AM I WRONG FOR TAKING MY DECEASED GRANDMOTHER'S RING? This is my family ring in the photo.
My grandmother recently passed away, leaving behind a family ring that is traditionally passed to the oldest granddaughter. As the oldest biological granddaughter, I was promised the ring by my grandmother and aunt.
My aunt adopted her daughter when I was 14. However, after my grandmother's passing, I overheard my aunt and her adopted daughter discussing plans to sneak the ring away from me.
Feeling betrayed, I decided to take action. Last night, after some work at my grandmother's home, we all went out to eat.
I excused myself early, claiming that my manager needed me at work. Instead, I went back to my grandmother's house, took the ring, and hid it in my apartment.
I'm now anxious about my aunt's reaction when she discovers the ring is missing. Was I wrong for taking the ring under these circumstances? . . . Continue Reading in below comment 👇👇
My Aunt & Her Adopted Daughter Secretly Want to Sneak Old Family Ring Out of My Late Grandma’s Jewelry Box A woman shared that it was customary in her family for the oldest daughter to inherit a priceless ring. She was supposed to get the ring according to the tradition, but after her grandma passed away, things didn’t work out as planned.
The 21-year-old Reddit user revealed that her grandmother eventually passed away from Alzheimer’s. Her passing caused the family members to argue.
She left behind a ring her mother had given her. It was her grandmother’s, and she meant to give it to her only granddaughter, but after her death, things didn’t work out as she had hoped.
The Redditor shared that she has loved the ring since she was a young girl and was excited to receive it. It was all she wanted from her granny, she claimed.
According to the family custom, the ring would only be given to the oldest daughter. The mother of Original Poster (OP) was younger than her grandmother, who had two daughters.
Since OP was the only girl among the grandchildren, OP’s aunt, who had two males, persuaded her sister to give OP the family ring. But with the death of OP’s grandma, everything was different.
OP’s aunt adopted a 17-year-old girl when she was 14 years old. No one had brought up the family custom since then, so OP figured the girl’s addition wouldn’t have an impact on her chances of receiving the ring.
OP intended to obtain the ring ahead of her aunt’s daughter. Everyone cleaned OP’s grandmother’s house after her death.
According to OP, her grandma was sent into a facility after receiving an Alzheimer’s diagnosis, which is why her home needed cleaning. OP heard her adoptive daughter and aunt whispering in the pantry as she was cleaning the house.
She approached them and listened in on their private talk. She was shocked to learn that they intended to retrieve the ring before she could arrive from her grandmother’s jewelry box.
As the eldest granddaughter, OP’s cousin thought she deserved the ring. OP clarified: “I was upset because my aunt promised me I could eventually have it but she changed her mind.
”OP made the decision to obtain the ring before her aunt’s daughter did after finding out about their plans. She informed the family that she had to depart early since her manager had summoned her for work one evening while they were going out to supper.
She went back to her grandmother’s house and removed the ring from the jewelry box rather than going to her office. Before anyone else could return, she made her way home right away.
She penned: “I have no idea what will happen today when my aunt realizes it’s missing. ” She asked Reddit users whether she made the correct decision in accepting the ring after sharing her tale there.
In response, a user stated that OP’s grandmother’s commitment gave her the ring, not the fact that she was the biological grandchild. According to the user, the OP’s aunt and cousin made a mistake by deciding to take the ring.
She questioned OP about her grandmother’s feelings about watching her children spar over a ring. A second user agreed with the original post, but pointed out that since her cousin’s adoption was outside of her control, she didn’t need to speak negatively about her.
After sharing information from her grandmother’s will, the original poster updated her post to clarify that the ring belongs to her youngest daughter’s oldest biological daughter. Her aunt was also challenged about it, but she left the house after becoming irritated and instructing OP and her mother to clean the place themselves.
The girl thinks she is the biological granddaughter, so she thinks she should get the ring. Her grandmother, she continued, believed that “blood ties were more important.
”Responding to the OP’s treatment of the other girl as a “second-class member” because of her adoption, a user pointed out that OP and her grandma were to blame. Given that the adopted child was adopted at a later age, another user brought up how challenging it must have been for her to integrate into the family.
The majority of users thought that the entire family was to blame. Here are some more remarks from Redditors:
I feel it should go to the girl that grew up knowing her grandmother. 3 years in the family does not give a grand daughter the bonding that the one girl most likely had, plus Grandma had a diagnosis of Alzheimer’s and may have had trouble realizing who the adoptee was.