My Parents Pulled Me Aside Before Their Anniversary Party And Asked Me
I was 29 when it happened, but it still replays in my head like a scene I can’t fast-forward through. My name’s Josh, and if you asked most people who knew me growing up, they’d probably say I was a quiet kid. Not shy exactly—just careful. I listened more than I talked, observed more than I participated. That’s probably why I noticed all the cracks before the house started falling apart.
My parents, Carla and Dennis, were the kind of people who liked things to look perfect. They lived for appearances. If something went wrong, they didn’t fix it. They covered it up. Painted over the damage, rearranged the furniture, smiled for the neighbors, and hoped no one asked too many questions. I spent most of my life pretending I didn’t see the peeling paint. We were never a Hallmark-card family, but I used to think we were at least normal.
My dad worked in corporate real estate—always immaculately dressed, always with his phone pressed to his ear like it was stitched there. My mom stayed home but treated her social calendar like a full-time job: fundraisers, brunches, anniversary parties, charity events where everyone wore the exact same shade of navy. They were very into the idea of legacy, of building a life that other people admired. The problem was their definition of admirable didn’t leave much room for people who didn’t fit the mold.
I was a late bloomer, I guess. Struggled in school, didn’t go to college right away, spent a couple years floating around doing part-time work and trying to figure out what I was even good at. Eventually, I found my thing. Custom woodwork, actually—cabinets, furniture, decorative pieces. There was something grounding about it, something honest. You couldn’t fake a dovetail joint. Either it held or it didn’t. I liked that.
By the time I turned 28, I was running my own shop with a small but steady list of clients. I wasn’t rich, but I was proud of what I’d built. My parents weren’t. They never outright said it, but I could see it in the way my mom would describe my work to her friends like it was a quirky hobby.
“Josh is doing his little woodworking thing. It keeps him busy,” she’d say, waving it off like I was building birdhouses in a shed behind the house.
My dad barely asked questions anymore. Just offered half-hearted “that’s nice” comments whenever I told him about a big project or a client I landed. I stopped trying to impress them after a while. I figured it was just one of those things—you get older and your parents stop understanding you. Happens to everyone, right?
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