I was livid, accusing her of stealing my stuff just so she could feel pretty for an evening. “Are you crazy, Annie?! What was the point of asking me whether you could wear my dress if you were just going to do what you wanted in any case?
You didn’t even think about me, you just stole my stuff to outshine your friends.”
“My love, it’s only a dress. Let your sister enjoy her evening like you once did. You’ve had the dress for years.
I think it’s only fair to pass it on,” My grandmother interjected. “I’m not giving it up, Gran! Take it off NOW, Annie!”
My sister looked so dejected.
I grabbed my dress when she had changed out of it, stuffed it in a bag, and told everyone I would be spending the weekend at another family member’s. But honestly, driving away, my guilt already started to set in. I mean, I knew first-hand what it was like to want to feel beautiful for your prom.
And I was so mean to my sister without even hearing her out. I managed to cool down over the course of the evening, and I started thinking back to what happened. Annie hadn’t really said anything.
When I thought about it, She looked like she wanted to protest for a second, but then she just looked confused. And that look really made me feel like a monster. The next day, I showed up to the preparations for the baptism with a huge iced coffee, flowers, and a packet of the hottest cheese puffs I could find.
I knew that would cheer Annie up a bit. “I’m sorry, An. I didn’t mean to snap at you like that.
You know I can get a bit frustrated, and I just lost it when I saw you had taken my dress.”
“That’s the thing, Lora, I didn’t. Thought you told Mom I could have it.”
Oh, how dumb could I be? My sister and I had fought over clothes too often for her to just breach my trust like this.
We had an agreement, after all. That’s how I learned that she was under the impression I’d had a change of heart, thanks to a little misinformation from our mom. The confrontation that ensued with my mom and grandma wasn’t pretty.
In the heat of the moment, I said they were manipulative, but I reigned myself in this time. I had seen how hurtful I could be when I was angry, and I didn’t want to upset any more people that I loved. In the end, they didn’t apologize, though, and the day was extremely awkward.
The family divide was real. Some called me selfish for not sharing with Annie, but to me, that dress was more than just fabric; it was a symbol of my independence and self-confidence. Luckily, the dress saga eventually took a turn for the better.
Annie and I are to go dress shopping together for her prom. And as for the rest of the family? Well, it took some long conversations, but we all finally put our own indignation behind us and managed to reconcile.
I’ve since forgiven my mom and grandma, understanding that their intentions, albeit misguided, came from a place of love. In the end, it’s not just about a dress. It’s about boundaries, respect, and understanding within a family.
I’ve also learned a few lessons during this time, and I’ve made a point of not saying things I would later regret. Annie and I are on great terms again, and I can’t wait to see how beautiful my little sister is going to look at her prom.
