Her argument that several of our recently adult cousins and family members were allowed, while her son was not, further complicated the discourse. “They are adults, legally, and can take care of themselves. It’s not the same, and you know it,” I reasoned, stressing how her child was prone to mischief.
We ended the call with some visible tension between us, and a few days later, Emily called again to discuss the matter further. I think she hoped I’d change my mind after mulling things over, but I gave her the same answer, “No children at my wedding, sis.”
Her reply came reluctantly as she said:”Ok, I’ll find a daycare!” SHE THOUGHT SHE’D HUNG UP BUT DIDN’T and I heard, “I’ll take him anyway, she won’t kick me out with the child.”
Her words burned me up. I looked at my fiancé, who was seated next to me.
“So what are we going to do?!” he asked before I replied:
“We will teach her a lesson!”Emily thought she’d outplayed me, but I had the upper hand and taught her a valuable lesson. Speaking to my fiancé, I explained how I didn’t want our guests to lose out on enjoying themselves at our wedding because of my nephew’s behavior. Another thing that I mentioned to him was how my sister tended to try to pass him off to other people when she got tired of taking care of him.
Those were things I was unwilling to abide by for my special occasion. On the wedding day, Emily came with Jack in tow, thinking she had won, but I had the upper hand. I didn’t want to get into an argument and ruin my mood on my wedding day, and that’s why I’d convinced my fiancé to hire and post security guards at the entrance of the venue.
Besides keeping the peace and ensuring a private and fun affair, one of their main mandates was not to let anyone in who had children with them. It must have been a huge shock for her when she arrived! At one point, I saw that my phone was blowing up with her calls, but I wanted my wedding to be perfect and just the way I wanted it, so I didn’t let it ruin my mood.
A few months later, I played one of her voicemail messages. I also regretted not responding to her, but he insisted that we enjoy our time away and that everything else would be tackled when we returned. The commotion I heard at the gate with the security guards eased my heart and guilty conscience.
I knew right then that I’d made the right decision leaving her out of my wedding because my nephew would’ve caused trouble. I lay in my husband’s arms as I contemplated how to repair my relationship with Emily because, despite her actions, I still loved her and Jack dearly. However, today would not be the day that I attempted to bridge the gap with her because I was in marital bliss and being served grapes by my new and loving husband.
