My Fiancé and His Mom Are Furious Because I Refuse to Take His Last Name

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He moved out and refused to talk to me since. Was I wrong? People stood on her side.

She later shared an update. Yesterday evening, I made the decision to text my fiancé and call off the wedding. I texted him the following message:

“Hey.

I just wanted to let you know that the wedding is off. Please inform your relatives/friends that the only Mrs. Smith they will find standing near the aisle will be your mom.

I will mail back your ring to your mother’s address, but please do not get in touch with me after this.”

I didn’t expect to receive a call from his MOTHER an hour later, who ran her mouth at me over the phone, called me names, and informed me that she was going to make my life a living hell for what I did to her son. I already made plans to change my lock and install a front porch camera, but should I be doing anything else to protect myself? I am also receiving nasty messages from my ex fiancé’s friends, threatening me for my decision.

I will plan to donate any/all food to a nearby homeless shelter. I will also contact any of my own friends/family about the cancellation and give my best explanation, as well as canceling the venue, photographer, etc. In the end, the decision to take a partner’s last name should be a mutual and respectful agreement, reflecting the values and identities of both individuals.

When faced with manipulation and coercion, it becomes essential to recognize and assert one’s own boundaries and desires.