A girl wanted $200 to hang out with her friends, but when her dad turned down her request, she was furious. Their altercation took a different turn after she confessed a long-hidden truth.
A 19-year-old girl was quite the attention seeker who always yearned to be the center of attention. She often played the victim and stirred drama by lying about others to stay in the spotlight. But one day, she confessed a shocking truth during an intense argument over money.
Her father, a Reddit user, revealed that he struggled with a dilemma on the “AITA” forum before asking random strangers for their input. He wanted to know if he’d done something wrong in reacting to the disturbing discovery he made based on his daughter’s confession.
The 39-year-old original poster (OP) welcomed his daughter when he was 20. She always sought attention and went to any level to be on center stage. Despite OP’s multiple warnings, his daughter never heeded them.
At some point, the dad gave up trying to mend her, and while she threw her usual tantrums, the real problem sparked when she approached OP for $200 to go to the mall with her friends.
OP sternly refused and turned down her pleas since he’d already given her enough money for the month. Having realized that constant pleading wouldn’t work, the daughter took a different approach and slowly expressed her frustration.
Their altercation peaked when she started screaming at OP, saying there was no point in her mom marrying a rich guy who wouldn’t give her daughter any money. OP couldn’t take more of this and retaliated that he was “her father” and not “some ATM” she could use whenever she wanted.
In the heat of the moment, she lashed out at him, saying that he was “nothing more than an ATM to her” because he wasn’t her biological father. The dad was stunned and anxiously asked where she got that idea.
The girl immediately realized she’d blurted out something she wasn’t supposed to and angrily tried to cover it up. But OP sensed something fishy about her statement and threatened to kick her out if she didn’t come clean about why she uttered something like that. In the next few seconds, OP’s daughter revealed the truth.
She told her dad that when she turned 18, her mom decided she “needed to know the truth” and confessed to cheating on OP with three other men before she fell pregnant. The mom strongly believed OP wasn’t her father since he always used protection during intimacy.
OP’s wife and her daughter decided to keep the secret from him since he funded their lavish lifestyle. OP was crushed, and after a heated confrontation with his wife, he ousted them, although he still gave the girl $200 since she was jobless.
Later, the girl came to visit him, begging for more money as she’d blown up everything. OP was livid, and he promised to help her only if she cooperated with him for a DNA test. After she agreed to the test, OP pursued it. The results eventually revealed that he wasn’t her father.
The dad was heartbroken with everything that happened in such a short time. He turned down his family’s and in-law’s request to forgive his wife and decided not to reconcile with his daughter since she was complicit in keeping him in the dark. Reddit users shared their thoughts
“They are all blowing me up right now trying to get me to change my mind, so AITA?” he asked a fellow Redditor for moral judgment. After rummaging through OP’s plight, Redditors anonymously weighed in by declaring OP wasn’t at fault in the situation.
The post’s top-voted commenter suggested OP needed to stop talking to his wife and her daughter, adding, “It seems the daughter made the decision to not see you as a father figure. That could be because she’s angry you didn’t give her money, and she said it out of spite.”
Several others, including one user, claimed OP’s wife and daughter financially exploited him. “Get a good lawyer and move your funds into a separate account your wife can’t access. Go ahead and write your stepdaughter off,” the person advised.
In the end, OP concluded that although the girl he raised for 19 years, assuming she was his daughter, turned out to be someone else’s, he wouldn’t abandon her altogether. He resolved, “I won’t leave a young girl helpless in a city, even if the circumstances are bad. I won’t take her back or give her anywhere near as much money as I used to, but I will still help.”
When the paternity test revealed OP wasn’t the girl’s father, he kicked her out along with her mother. Although OP admitted to helping the girl with little finances since she was unemployed, he was determined not to reconcile with her. Would you do the same if you were the father?
After OP realized his wife had cheated on him with three other men, he outright expelled her from his life and house. In the bargain, he also ousted the girl he thought was his daughter. Would you advise OP to give the girl a fair chance to prove that she could still be his daughter, though she’s not genetically related to him since she was not to blame for her mother’s infidelity? Do years of love fade away after discovering that the child you raised is someone else’s?
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What a shame in that his wife was untrue and gave birth to another man I know to this man 19 years later the truth she wasn’t his had all the right in throwing them out and give them no
mote support.
ABSOLUTELY RIGHT GO TO IT AND DONT LOOK BACK
wow.. not sure what i would do.. it definitely would piss me off big time.. so now that she is out of HS i would tell her i will help her with college but there are rules with that.. keeping good grades and be honest about everything.. now for just giving her money when ever she wanted it .. nope that wouldn’t happen.. it’s kinda like a paycheck what do i get for my money..
she should get nothing
no deal. she showed her true colors
He could make a deal with the daughter about her getting a job and make her way and he would not abandon her in extra needs but certainly have good boundaries in their relationship. It was not her fault that she was raised by her mother to be the way she is.
she is old enough to know right from wrong. entitled brat. apple didnt fall far from tree
She made it clear to him, I’m not your daughter and used him for money. It was wrong all those years wife wasn’t honest with him and then the girl throwing in his face. She should have been made to get a job and realize money doesn’t just pop out of the ATM freely. I feel bad for him and the hurt he feels.
I raised 3 children that wasn’t mine. Along 4 that was mine. They grew to be decent people to our society. The brat in the story deserves no money or anything else that belong to the step father.
you knew they werent yours right? he didnt
Such terrible deceit by wife and daughter. Yes, he needs to kick them out of his home, fire for divorce, with no alimony or any additional daughter support. This man has probably put up with a lot of deceit by wife in their married life. Divorce, take a break from women, and figure out what to do.
i wouldnt have waited for DNA to toss them. she had a dad but he was just her ATD automated teiier daddy to her. shes an adult who made a decision now time for consequences and karma. mom is a ho bag
If I was a man and was married and had a daughter and then found out that she wasn’t my daughter I would not give out any money and I would divorce the wife and not have any dealings with either one of them