1. Ava’s job loss and overdue bills
When 28-year-old Ava lost her marketing job, she her mom in tears—overdrawn account, late rent, unpaid utilities. Mom’s gut reaction?
Pay it all off. But instead, she offered one month’s rent on one condition: Ava had to send out 5 resumes a week and cut non-essentials like takeout. ✅ Expert tip: Offer conditional help—tie it to specific actions (job hunting, budgeting) so the support moves them forward.
2. Nathan’s debt spiral
Nathan, 32, loved spending—new gadgets, weekend trips, dinners out. The result?
Massive credit card debt. Dad had bailed him out before, but this time he sat him down to build a budget, explore debt consolidation, and sell unused luxury items. ✅ Expert tip: Swap quick fixes for financial education—teach budgeting, saving, and debt management so they can avoid repeat crises.
3. Liv’s overextended car loan
Liv, 25, loved her new car… until the payments crushed her budget.
Instead of covering her missed payments, her parents helped her call the lender, explore refinancing, and pick up weekend work. ✅ Expert tip: Guide them toward problem-solving—negotiating with lenders, finding extra income—so they can handle future bumps.
More tips for parents from experts
Set firm boundaries: Decide upfront how much you’ll help—and follow through.
Don’t give in to guilt: Sometimes saying “no” is the most caring choice. Make help accountable: Ask for a budget or job search proof before offering money. Bring in an expert: A financial advisor can teach lessons family talks can’t.
Keep it short-term: One-time support is okay, but avoid creating long-term dependence. Support is powerful when it teaches independence. What is the best financial gift you can give your adult child?
The confidence—and skills—to thrive without you. I Refused to Give My Inheritance to My Kids—They Plotted Against Me
