Our nuptial day is intended to be one of our most joyous, and carefully organized to mirror our tastes.
Nonetheless, Norma perceived her daughter-in-law’s choice of an exclusively vegan menu as inconsiderate, given Norma’s family’s fondness for meat.
She intervened and secretly arranged for meat at the wedding without the bride’s consent.
This has led to major conflicts, prompting Norma to ask us for guidance.
Norma’s letter:
I have my doubts this is a real scenario. Seems made up BS for validation.
If it is real, yes.
You were wrong.
Any normal person knows this, which is why I think this is pure bull$hit.
Hello Norma!
Thank you for your letter.
We have prepared a few tips we believe can help you navigate this situation.
Pursue empathy and find common ground.
Plus why are so many people offended by vegetables??
My husband is a mostly meat eater, but every now and then, he wants a veggie burger..
That perspective is so wild..
Start a gentle and understanding dialogue with your daughter-in-law.
Recognize her views on veganism and apologize for the confusion and trouble caused by adding meat to the menu.
Suggest a compromise for future family events, offering both vegan and non-vegan dishes, so everyone feels valued and included.
Say sorry and make things right.
I am sick of these vegans and there high and mighty attitude about being vegans.
People should be able to eat what they want with out feeling guilty. Vegans should stop forcing people to eat vegan.
I can’t stand when vegans act like it’s the only way you should eat. I can do with out meat but never without eggs or butter…my choice!
I’m sure all the guest don’t eat vegan. Maybe the parents could’ve just eaten it for one day sure…but It also would’ve been nice to give a choice and not make it about what Dil liked only!
Vegans you will never ever get everybody to eat your way..so stop trying!
Even though you were initially resistant, consider offering a heartfelt apology to your daughter-in-law for going against her wishes.
Show remorse for not respecting her choice and for causing distress on such an important day.
Propose making amends by hosting a family dinner or event where she can plan the menu according to her preferences, demonstrating your willingness to support her decisions and reconcile the relationship.
Family mediation and conflict resolution.
Should the disputes continue, propose seeking the help of a neutral facilitator, such as a family counselor or mediator, to aid in steering a meaningful conversation between yourself, your son, and your daughter-in-law.
This could offer an organized framework to tackle fundamental issues, clarify any miscommunications, and strive toward restoring trust and harmony within the family.
Establish boundaries and honor differences.
Set explicit boundaries for upcoming family events concerning dietary preferences and other delicate topics.
Promote transparent dialogue and mutual respect among family members to avoid future disputes.
Highlight the need to respect personal choices while creating a welcoming and inclusive atmosphere for all participants in family gatherings.
Her became day turned into a disaster when Leah, a young bride, opted to proceed with her wedding despite a recent family tragedy.
Source: Bright Side
Not the MIL’s place to dictate the meal, unless she was hosting it. GEEEEZ, what’s WRONG with people who can’t go without meat for one damn meal??? Seems to me that this is about CONTROL, and does not bode well for harmony in that relationship (MIL/DIL) in the future. SHAME on MIL!
An apology (from MIL) is DEFINITELY in order.