At 18, my mom told me I had to start paying rent. It was tough, but I paid her every month until I moved out. Fast forward to now, she’s low on money and wants to move in with me.
I agreed, until my younger brother casually mentioned that Mom never charged him a dime, even when he turned 25. That revelation landed like a punch in the gut. I couldn’t wrap my head around it.
I spent years struggling to scrape together rent while juggling classes and a part-time job, and my brother, Desmond, just waltzed through his early twenties rent-free? My mind kept replaying the times I’d skipped meals so I could hand over my envelope of cash on the first of the month. I thought Mom was teaching me responsibility, but now it felt like I’d been singled out.
That night, I lay awake staring at the ceiling. Part of me wanted to confront Mom immediately, but another part worried I’d overreact. Maybe there was a good reason.
Maybe she just couldn’t afford to support both of us back then. Or maybe she thought Desmond needed more help. But it stung that she never told me.
The next morning, I called Desmond. He answered with his usual laid-back tone. When I brought it up, he hesitated just a second too long before saying, “I thought you knew.
Mom said you were the ‘strong one’ and I needed time to get my life together.” His voice was casual, but I felt a lump forming in my throat. Was that supposed to make me feel better? All it did was remind me of nights I’d cried myself to sleep because I couldn’t afford new shoes or a textbook.
I decided to invite Mom over for lunch that weekend to talk things out. I wanted her to move in with me, but not without understanding why she treated us so differently. When she arrived, she looked tired but smiled warmly.
I almost forgot my frustration when she hugged me. We sat at the small kitchen table, plates of pasta between us. I took a deep breath.
“Mom,” I started carefully, “I have to ask—why did you make me pay rent, but not Desmond?” Her eyes flickered, just for a second, and she sighed. “I always knew you’d make it on your own,” she said softly. “I was proud of how determined you were.
Desmond… he needed more time. He always struggled with focus and discipline. I thought if I pushed you, you’d thrive.
And you did.” I could hear the emotion in her voice, but it didn’t soften the bitterness I felt. “Mom, I love you, but do you know what it felt like for me? How lonely it was, thinking I was being punished while Desmond coasted?” I asked.
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