There are a few exceptions, but an office setting is not one. But, I can say that if this annoys your boss enough, they will magically find another reason to let you go. You’re not even past your probation period.
They don’t NEED a reason to let you go. Try finding a sports bra. Something with no wire and is relatively comfortable.
Something that doesn’t squish you. That’s just a suggestion, though.
That was your supervisor sending a message via the secretary, by the way. You will get fired or let go if you continue to not wear something. Can you wear a bralette, crop top bra, comfort bra/sleep bra, or similar?”
OP is not going to win this, she will not show compliance asking questions, she will show compliance by complying. Many attire compromises were suggested. If no peace can be found, she will lose her job, end of story.
No company takes any hassle from a person hired last week, unless perhaps the person is the CEO himself. She is NTA, but has a decision to make. Whether having to make this decision is fair (I think it is not) is beside the point.
Some were totally supporting the woman.
- “Women’s breasts should be normalized, but society isn’t there yet, and it is usually very noticeable. Overall, I’m saying you’re not wrong because it should be normal, but I understand it making people uncomfortable because it’s not yet. If I were you, I would wear sports bras/bralettes/camis just to keep the peace since it’s a new workplace, and you don’t want to be starting on the wrong foot.”
- “If there is no dress code, do what you want, but also it’s in their rights to want a certain level of professionalism.”
- “It’s ridiculous that people are this upset over your boobs and how you choose to dress when there’s not even a dress code.
Sounds like they have a staring problem, I’m sure HR would love to hear about it.”
And some found her concerns ridiculous and wrong, taking the side of the company.
- “It doesn’t matter what happened at your last job you’re not there any longer, you’re at a new job. If you really can’t handle wearing a bra, you’re going to have to look for a new job, sue this company so you can not wear one, or go back to your old company.”
- “I don’t think I have ever had a job that didn’t state proper undergarments needed to be worn.
I can’t imagine risking employment over a bra.”
- “You’re wrong for pretending not to know that most professional workplaces consider a bra part of professional attire. If you want to go against that norm, you do you, but if you have anything but A-cup breasts, people are gonna notice.”
The story shows that the woman’s outfit choice and preference not to wear a bra isn’t just about comfort or fashion. It’s about personal freedom and challenging workplace norms.
Her decision might lead to change or simply stress the importance of respecting different views. This highlights the need for ongoing talks about inclusivity and acceptance in all areas of life.
