Family dinners aren’t usually eventful, but tonight was an exception. It all started when my elder sister and youngest brother got into an argument that escalated quickly. Frustrated, my sister blurted out in front of everyone, ‘Shut up, I’m not going to argue with a 22-year-old vir*in,’ crossing a line that none of us expected. Our brother, who already struggles with confidence, sat there stunned. Without thinking, I stepped in and said something that shifted the entire evening into chaos: I mentioned her past that her husband wasn’t aware of…(continue below)

“We had a family dinner this evening. My family has four kids in total: me, my elder sister (29F), younger sister (24F), and youngest brother (22M). Extended family attended our family dinner too.

So all of our significant others, our cousins, aunts, and uncles were there. During the dinner, my elder sister and youngest brother got into a mild disagreement. My sister seemed (at least to me) to be coming across as very aggressive out of frustration and losing said argument.

The two of them were too absorbed in their argument to realize the rest of us were getting a bit fed up. Eventually my sister got really fed up and said, ‘Shut up, I’m not going to argue with a 22-year-old virgin.’ My brother hadn’t made any personal attacks up until that point.

It was completely unprovoked. I think it might have been the alcohol, as my sister is a mean drunk. Anyway, I immediately told my sister to grow up and that she was making an embarrassment of herself. She replied by saying everyone knows he’s a virgin and she didn’t say anything wrong.

This annoyed me, as my brother definitely has confidence issues and doesn’t need to be made fun of like this.

So I responded by saying how she slept with well over 100 men while she was in college, and that since everyone in the family knows this, it’s not a big deal, right? Turns out her husband didn’t know this, amazingly — I genuinely assumed he must have known. He left the party angrily saying that my sister misled him about her past.

The family is blaming me for their marital problems. I refuse to accept that I did anything wrong. My sister bullied my brother in front of everyone; all I did was give her a taste of her own medicine.”