When my wife announced she wanted to abandon her law career for teaching after racking up $195,000 in student debt, I thought our biggest problem was the money. But her explosive reaction to my solution revealed something much darker about our marriage that I never saw coming.
My wife and I got married young, at 23. Now we’re both 27, and she’s about to graduate from law school.
When she first went, I was so proud of her.
She seemed passionate about becoming an attorney, and even though I knew law school meant she’d take on significant debt, I supported her dreams.
I remember the day she got her acceptance letter.
Emily was jumping with excitement, waving that thin envelope around our tiny apartment like it was a winning lottery ticket.
“Daniel, can you believe it?
I’m actually going to be a lawyer!” she said.
“I’m so proud of you, Em. You worked so hard for this,” I told her, pulling her into a hug.
Even then, I had a nagging worry about the financial side of things, but I pushed it down.
This was her moment.
But here we are four years later, and she’s sitting on almost $195,000 in student debt from both undergrad and law school. And now she tells me she doesn’t even want to be a lawyer anymore.
The conversation that changed everything happened last Wednesday night.
We were eating takeout Chinese food on our couch when Emily suddenly put down her chopsticks and turned to face me with that serious expression I’d learned to recognize.
“Daniel, I need to talk to you about something important,” she said, her voice unusually quiet.
“Sure, what’s up?” I asked, though something in her tone made my stomach tighten.
“I’ve been doing some soul-searching, and I realize I’ve been on the wrong path,” she continued, tucking her legs under herself.
“Law school has been miserable.
I hate the competition, the long hours, and the whole cutthroat environment.
It’s not who I am.”
I tried to stay calm, but inside I was reeling.
$195k in debt, and she was talking about walking away from the career path that could pay it off? We live in a very expensive city.
Rent, insurance, groceries… all of it stacks up. Her plan didn’t make sense.
“Okay,” I said slowly, trying to process what she was telling me.
“So, what are you thinking instead?”
“I want to teach,” she said.
“I applied to Teach For America. They place new graduates in high-need schools.
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