Our reader Amelia recently sent us a letter detailing her recent restaurant experience, raising important questions about tipping etiquette, customer service, and how to navigate conflict.

Here’s her full story:

I (30F) went out to a nice restaurant with my husband (30M) last night to celebrate his big promotion. Everything was going well until the very end, when the waitress completely ruined it with her entitled attitude.

When the check came, I left a $10 tip on top of the $85 bill. As the waitress picked up the money, she sneered and said loudly, “Ten bucks? This isn’t the 1950s anymore, you know.”

I was stunned. Her tone was so condescending and rude. My husband’s eyes widened in disbelief.Excuse me?” I said, instantly annoyed. “I think ten bucks on an $85 bill is more than fair.”

The waitress rolled her eyes dramatically. “It’s a standard 20% tip these days, cheapskate. Do you not know how to calculate that?the fun in that?

This turned into the kind of clash that restaurant-goers dine out on for weeks. Why let a minor rudeness slide when you can go down in a blaze of triumphant indignation?

Final Verdict – Karen’s Take

To tip or not to tip—that is the question. Many might whisper that it’s better to keep calm and move on, but if you ask me, sometimes it’s just worth it to let them know they crossed your line.

After all, respect is a two-way street, and you can’t let bad behavior go unchecked. So yes, taking the tip back was extreme, but darn if it didn’t make for a legendary story!