The term “wife-guy” came up recently on the internet, and it made me think of my ex-husband. He probably is still what the internet refers to as a “wife guy.

” He presents that as his front, but in reality, he was my covert narcissist husband. You can verify this by looking at the definition of “wife guy” on Wikipedia; “. .

. A wife guy is a man who is famous on social media because of the content he posts about his wife.

The term has become more broadly used to describe men who use their wives to raise their social status or public image. You wouldn’t think that a man with that kind of wife would be a covert narcissist or even a narcissist at all.

Yes, my ex managed to fool everyone, including me. Throughout our relationship, he posted pictures of us smiling on social media while he abused, manipulated, and used me.

A photo of ours once went viral; I was dressed in clothes that were too small for me, and my husband was dressed business casually, and he was on his knees tying my shoes. It was a stunning image of a handsome coupe, and people all over the internet gave it a lot of mmmms and awwwws.

I read the comments with mixed feelings because I had begun to see the cracks in our facade since we had just got married. I’ll tell you how that picture came to be.

He took my leg, placed it on his lap, and loosened my shoelaces before we got out of the car while he was driving us from our hotel to his brother’s birthday party. He replied, “Go with the flow, you’ll soon understand,” when I inquired as to why.

I finally understood. He was there to save the day when my shoe strings completely came undone while I was mingling at the party.

He made a big deal out of tying my shoes by bending down in his designer clothes. A picture was taken, and it ended up on my ex’s social media accounts.

He got the attention and praise he wanted, which was more than he expected and made him happy. This marked the beginning of a period in my marriage where perfection was shown to the world while I did everything I could to live up to the lie.

It’s interesting that I saw my covert narcissist husband more and more as he shared our “happiness” online. The contrast was painfully sharp.

He would occasionally enter the kitchen, don an apron, and pretend to help in order to take a picture of himself while I was cooking. He would take a picture of the meal when it was ready to show before and after photos.

A sentimental caption such as “I helped make this” might be appropriate. It looks and tastes just as good.

Delish! ”

Yet in reality, while he was eating, he would criticize the meal from head to toe. He would occasionally post me with the caption, “Isn’t she the most beautiful?

” Yet in reality, I would be told that my skin was becoming too dark, that I had gained weight, and that I was becoming unattractive.

While our marriage appeared perfect online, inside I was trapped, lost, and enraged. And let’s be clear: it didn’t stop with social media.

He also presented a false front in front of friends and family. He was the sweetest person ever when my mother and sister were around; He cleaned, took over the kitchen, and we had a good time out there.

We weren’t used to men being present and in charge, even though my sister and mother loved him. My sister had been in and out of abusive relationships, and my father had been absent from my life.

Therefore, his behavior was absolutely stunning to them. I couldn’t bring myself to tell them that my husband was a covert narcissist.

He once looked at me and said, “Your family is made up of a bunch of unpolished women, thank God you met me, so I can balance the equation with my exposure,” after my mother and sister had visited and left. When he needed to put me down, his go-to phrase was “Kurasenii,” which means “unpolished woman.

” He would be the most loving husband, attentive, talkative, and kind when we had company, even if we were in our house for weeks without speaking to each other.

I lost an unhealthy amount of respect for him as the faking started to get to me. We got into more arguments; Our marriage started to fall apart.

However, no one outside of our house noticed. He started trying to get me to start a family.

However, I knew better than to add a child to our ruse. He refused to listen to my request that we begin therapy and work through our issues.

He also had an affair later. I also found out.

He offered his usual extravagant apology. In addition, he threw a grand birthday party for me, invited our friends and family, and put on a show that was legendary.

At the conclusion of the party, everyone agreed that I was the luckiest girl in the entire world. However, his affair persisted, and I decided to break off my marriage.

He won over everyone. They said he had erred, and I ought to forgive him.

that there would never be another like him, and However, I was done, exhausted, and in love. I then left.

He turned everyone who knew me against me. I was reprimanded for months by my mother and sister.

In fact, when I filed for divorce, he left our home, and my sister took care of him for months in hers. Additionally, my mother predicted that I would never meet another great man.

They made a variety of excuses for him and directly blamed me for not trying hard enough, and no amount of explanation could convince anyone of the reality of the marriage. At some point, I stopped explaining and accepted the fact that people did not know my side of the story.

These days, all I can think about is how fortunate I am to have made it out alive and unscathed. I am sharing this to assure anyone who is dealing with a covert narcissist spouse that they are not insane.

Although the narcissist is a master manipulator and the things they are going through are real, they can make you question your own sanity.